Thursday, June 30

How to eat in Kenya

A couple days ago after my friend Lexi wrapped up an interview in Kibera with an HIV infected sex worker and her family and after a hot day navigating the slum and travelling around we decided to go for a nice dinner out. Lexi, who is born in South Africa, but lives in New Zealand, is a 26 year old journalist. A lot of volunteers who stay at the house in Mlolongo I have trouble really connecting with since they are usually only here for a short time, but with Lexi it was easy. For the past year and a half she has been traveling the world, working on pieces for various publications and then using the money she earns to continue travelling. So far, she has visited over 30 countries. Kenya is her last stop before she meets up with her family in South Africa.

Ethiopian is my favourite food to eat if we are going out for dinner. Ethiopian restaurant service goes against the Kenyan way by having food prepared quickly and the service rushed with the servers almost moving about with a speed walk. This whole plate of food pictured below, which could have probably fed an entire family, cost us 600 shillings, around $3.50 Canadian dollars each. Even though a nice meal prepared quickly is a treat, one thing I have always loved about Kenyan restaurants is how when you go for a nice dinner, you can spend your entire night there. The service is slow but it’s an experience in itself. Warm water is boiled and the server circles the table washing every diner’s hand by pouring the warm water from a kettle onto your hands over a basin. At home it is alright if you choose to eat with your left hand, but in a restaurant, it is considered extremely rude. Although a lot of food in Kenya is eaten without utensils, in the most common “fast-food” joints in Nairobi, being chicken and chips, you are expected to eat your chips with toothpicks. No major fast food joints, like McDonalds exist in Kenya. The most popular fried food is kuku, chips, samosas, and sausages.
Since leaving Mlolongo and living with my friend in a different area of Nairobi I have had to become much more independent in terms of feeding myself. Almost every residential area in Nairobi is within a compound. Security is emphasized here and gated communities no matter what standard of living are common ground. Within every compound are “shops”. These little community run shops, which about the size of a large closet, sell the necessities. Bread, mandazi, eggs, milk, fruit, vegetables, lentils, soda, rice, sugar. matches, cleaning detergent, toilet paper, and phone credit, are the most common items you’ll find in a shop.
I rarely venture out of the compound when it comes to buying groceries for us to eat. I have learnt to live real simple, and for very cheap. A half litre of milk, which comes in a triangular packet is 30 bob, a loaf of bread, 40 bob, and fruit and vegetables come cheap too. The fruit stand lady within our compound always knows what I want when I arrive at her shop. “One mango, two bananas, and two avocados… one for today, and one for tomorrow”. Mangos and avocados go for 20 bob a piece, and bananas are 5 bob each.
Almost every meal in Kenyan households is served warm. Salima, back in Mlolongo always looked on in dismay whenever we dug out leftovers from the fridge and would eat it cold. “Cold rice and beans… you must warm it, you’ll fall sick!” When ordering drinks in restaurants, it is always served warm, unless you ask for it cold, and you’ll never find ice anywhere in a restaurant. Milk is also almost always warmed if being served alone. Mostly milk is used for chai though, which is considered the national obsession. Equal parts of milk and water are boiled with the tea, and usually ginger and a large amount of sugar is added to make the perfect cup of chai. Kenyans love everything with either lots of sugar or lots of salt. Even juices are typically warmed, especially for children.
As for street food, while waiting in Nairobi traffic, children walk through the lines of matatus, boda bodas, and cars, usually offering small paper rolled cones filled with peanuts, sugar cane, and fruit. Fruit stands are also common outside the residential compounds, as well as sugar cane being sold by men who machete the pieces straight from the large sticks of sugar cane in a wheel barrow. Corn being grilled is also common in town and near our house.
Although it is cheap and easy to eat healthy here, having fresh fruit and vegetables readily available outside our doorstep, other items such as meat and more western food is hard to purchase and consume regularly. The three major supermarket chains here, Uchumi, Nakumatt, and Tusky’s, offer these items, but they can be expensive. I am perfectly content with food I eat here though, and could live on mangos, avocados, mandazi, rice, and lentils. If only it was that inexpensive and easy to nourish yourself in Canada.


Last month, after returning home from a visit up country with her family, Salima splurged on a chicken from town, carrying it home with her to make us a “feast”. Being Muslim, Salima has to slaughter the chicken herself, so meat was a rare treat when I lived there. So after about three hours of listening to an annoying chicken run around our backyard tied to our door with a string, the noise stopped.

Monday, June 27

Say what you need to say, and don't be on time

One thing I have always found so interesting about Kenyans is their honesty. Kenyans almost always say it as it is. They speak the truth and are not afraid to tell you what they think about something, no matter what it is. I have learnt to develop a tough skin here to take some comments that I would almost always used to think of as very rude. When I went home everyone seemed so nice.

I have been emailing back and forth with my friend who just returned home after a year here in Africa. It’s not just the food, luxuries, and Canadian lifestyle she has been struggling to become reacquainted with, but surprisingly it’s been how she has had to adjust how she interacts with her friends. Brutal honesty and unguarded opinions are not so welcomed at home as they are here. Canadian culture seems much more relaxed to her now, after living in a society where she has witnessed public exorcisms every now and then and has been encouraged to believe in witchcraft. When our kitten Sami, who happens to be a black in colour, got sick, our house mama Salima refused to take it on the matatu to a vet. She truly believed other Kenyans would believe her to be practicing witchcraft. I don’t blame her.
 Some things about Kenyan culture I have grown to be acquainted with… like how not to rest your head in the palm of your hand in public since that means you are inviting death to someone you love. I have gotten in trouble for that several times with my Kenyan friends.  Or how during meal times, if you are in the presence of Kenyans, you are probably guaranteed to be denied most conversation. My house sister Beauty once commented to me during meal time with other volunteers in Mlolongo: “I don’t get you white children, all you do is talk talk talk while eating, and you are supposed to focus”.
Daily activities and the general lifestyle in Kenya also happens to move a lot slower. I have had to adjust to running on Kenyan time. My punctual self took a while to understand that if they say a meeting is at 12 noon sharp, you probably shouldn’t arrive till one, but even then you might be early. Most of everything here happens at much slower pace. “Twende pole, pole”, (let’s go slowly), is a phrase commonly used here. If you are late to meet a friend in town, (well, you can never really be “late”), you will have a hard time not growing frustrated attempting to shuffle through the crowds of people moving at a snail’s pace in downtown Nairobi streets. However, nothing really about this completely different culture dismays me. I have become accustomed to and have grown to love the brutal honesty of Kenyans and slower pace of life here. “Twende pole, pole.”

Wednesday, June 15

So much to learn

I just recently moved into my friend Beck’s place for a couple weeks and that is why I haven’t been really able to post a blog. Even though the house is quite hectic, the change is really nice. Beck’s is a friend of Josh’s I met here on my first time around. From Australia, she originally came with an organization to volunteer and returned and found work here as a teacher. Even though she works at a private school in one of Nairobi’s most wealthy areas- Karen, she also started up her own library in Kibera, a large slum here in Nairobi. Having a friend around for company is nice but during the day I still travel often to Mlolongo by matatu.
The centre has been quite busy. This week we had two in-school educations. Running at about two hours long, our youth run an in-class education session on HIV prevention. One day this week we also did VTC, voluntary counselling and testing. This week we did door to door testing which has proven to be quite effective. Since it’s more private and discreet, there tends to be less fear of being judged by the stigma attached to being tested for HIV. Since I am not a trained consoler I cannot do much on these days. I travel with the youth anyhow and while we wait outside I get Swahili lessons all day. I have managed to learn quite a bit here!
Yesterday I went to my friend Aziz’s for lunch. He lives with his sister and brother, Amina and Chym, his mom, and Amina’s baby daughter Solange in a one room apartment. They served vegetables in tomato sauce with beef on rice, which was very good. As they served me they kept on piling on the rice, when I told them I could only eat a small portion, they laughed. Everyone here apparently tries to get me to eat like an African. Amina later came up to me and whispered to me: “Lexi, do not get angry when I say this, but you’ve reduced”. As if losing weight was an insult. Sometimes the cultural differences go unnoticed, especially after living here for just over five months in all.
Even in town while having coffee it doesn’t faze me anymore when military men with huge guns that they carry in front of their chest walk past the table and say good morning, or when I walk past the barefoot street children on my way home. It’s not that I am not appalled, it’s just been accepted over time as the way it is. When I really think about it; the things I see here are nothing compared to at home, but over time I have become comfortable with the environment I chose to live in. At home life seems much more comfortable. It is much more sheltered, and things like a roof over my head, a bed to sleep in, accessible health care, education, and even having clean water, are easily taken for granted, even for me when I returned home after the first go around. Even though I realize how fortunate we are to have a home in Canada and when I am aware of the poverty and sickness that surrounds us here, I wouldn’t leave this place if I had the chance. I have become so comfortable here, with my surroundings and with the people. I am now able to look at a Kenyan and take a pretty good guess at what tribe they are from, and when I hear music on the matatu, based on the beat and lyrics, I can identify what tribe it’s from also. This morning while I sit at a Java House drinking my morning coffee so I can use the internet, the waiter learns that I can speak some Swahili. For the rest of the time spent here, he hasn't spoke a word of English to me, and we have carried out the rest of necessary conversation only in Swahili. Everyone here is always willing to teach, and I love that.

I still have so much to learn here, but that is what I enjoy so much about living here in Kenya. Everyday, the time spent with our youth at the center and with the locals and friends I live with, is a constant learning experience. Whether it be a new word or saying in Swahili or a new tribal ritual learnt, everywhere I go, Kenyans are willing to immerse you and share with you what makes Kenya. This is unlike any education I will ever have, and sometimes I feel like a child, ready and willing to completely absorb each experience and everything that is being taught to me.

Colorful Africa

Thursday, June 2

Time Flies

During these past two weeks a lot has happened here in Mlolongo. I have wanted to write about so many things but the timing was always off and have not had much time. Beauty and I made it through that last two weeks alone. I was happy to have Salima return at last on Tuesday. She had a wonderful time up-country with her family, but since both her parents are ill, leaving them again was hard for her. When she first stepped into the house she looked and me and simply shook her head. “Too thin, too thin. You were more beautiful big, like when you arrived. What happened?”  Sometimes I forget that this is Africa, and big is beautiful. She had brought home a live chicken in a box wrapped with string that she had bought in town before making her way to Mlolongo. She slaughtered it and watched me eat to make me get “back on track”. Wednesday was a public holiday – Madaraka day, which celebrates Kenya’s independence. There was a football tournament near our house so I sat with our youth all afternoon and watched. Later my friend and I, drove along Nairobi National Park to Uhuru gardens and spent the evening sitting in the park. It was a relaxing day. Yesterday we received three new volunteers from an organization so the house is no longer quiet. Even though I enjoy quiet and a less hectic household I am glad they are here. Two are from America, a girl and one boy, and one girl from New Zealand who is named Lexi also. Today Beauty and I took them around Mlolongo to see everything and introduce them to their placements. First we went to Heritage, the orphanage and school and then to the centre. Walking through Mlolongo with new travellers is always fun. The culture shock and anxiety can be read easily from there body language. It was a busy day with lots of walking in the heat and we are looking forwards to a quiet evening.

Nairobi National Park

Holiday football tournament

Nairobi National Park - just across the road from us.